I received an email that's sad as far as the murder/suicide it notes, but almost incomprehensible as far as the logic of its author. It is referenced in full below:
Would you please write about this honor killing the heart of Christian
America. I believe your readers deserve to get a peek at just some of
the horrors being committed against young children by their families.
If you only had the courage to look at your own damn country and the
culture of violence that goes on in your own backyard...
Its truly
sad how far we have to look for exotic forms of violent otherness to
make ourselves feel as though the sexual and physical violence that
takes place on such a massive scale in America is so much more
civilized than such violence in the land of the dark man & woman.
Doctor throws 2 kids, self off balcony - Yahoo! News
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060528/ap_on_re_us/children_killed
First, I've said before that my background knowledge is not in murder/suicides within the United States, Christian theology/practice within the US or overseas, or domestic violence here as well. As stated before, there are people knowledgeable in that field and I'm sure some of them have blogs. I generally stick to what I study or what I've seen and sometimes I'll point stuff out that's of interest to me, after all, it is my site. Does the author of this email read economic bloggers in Africa and berate them for not covering the economic devastation a new local government policy has had on a village in China?
Second, the article mentions nothing about religion, so I don't exactly understand how the author of this email gets from point A to point B about religion.
Third, the article mentions nothing about this being an honor killing, where the father killed his children because one damaged the family reputation by having sexual relations. How the author goes from point C to D with this shows his awesome logic skills (PS--I'd love to see what score this author would make on the LSAT).
Fourth, quite obviously there are horrors that occur in my own "damn country" and just because they're in my country, in no way, means that I think these individual incidents can be no less horrible per act than ones that occur elsewhere. Someone throwing their child off a balcony is just as sick and sad to me as someone murdering their sister. It's the acceptance of these actions and the legal implications that justice provides (and the lack thereof) that bothers me.
Fifth, the author misses an entire frame of writing in the article that's blatantly obvious--the article is exposing how jarring this incident is because it's so incongruous with what people thought of the family or what people think of when they hear a parent murdering their own child. A teacher at a school who knew the children, for example:
"I'm still staggering," he said. "I can't comprehend it. I've been teaching 34 years and had nothing like this."
The whole point of why this incident is so bad is because it's so unacceptable according to American norms and LAWS. Murder-suicides seem to capture attention so much because there can be no legal justice for the murderer. In Jordan, those who commit murder because they're angry that their female family member may have had some sort of sexual relation (which can include something as petty as kissing), turn themselves in because it is acceptable to do so. It is seen by too many that the murderer, himself, is the victim, because he had no recourse but to "avenge" family honor. Honor killers generally do not have to face stiff penalties or stay in prison long because the legal system still cannot deal with these acts. Do I think all Jordanians feel this way? Absolutely not. But for a small number, old cultural traditions die hard.
Thank goodness for courageous reporters like Rana Husseini of the Jordan Times who report honor killing incidents. If not for people like her, honor killings might not even be news. In the US, it's necessary that murders become news, because our society accepts that this sort of intentional murder is both morally wrong and illegal. Who is more courageous, Ms. Husseini who reports aspects of society that many would like to cover up or Reuters, who reports killings in the US that most people want exposed?
Update:
A Google News search of Edward van Dyk provides 700+ articles about this specific incident in Miami. Try Googling the name of those who commit honor crimes in Jordan----oh wait, even the Jordan Times uses self-censorship and will not publish that information.